Egyptian parents have the tendency to believe that their children, no matter how old, are never old enough to move out unless they get married.
There are ways, however, to help change that perspective.
No longer relying on your parents for financial purposes
This means knowing how to save more than you spend – finding ways to hustle (jobs, part-time jobs). Try to keep your eyes on the future rather than the present.
As an adult, you should be able to decide whether that Starbucks frappe is worth it when you have electricity bills to take care of later that month.
Having a savings account helps here. Once you store your money in the bank, you can just leave that secure there (and there’s the bonus of having your interest build up) and have it saved for future plans or for emergency purposes.
Learn how to do domestic chores
Living with your family, it’s easy to forget to do the dishes when your mom is around, or to do the laundry for a change.
I know it sucks and that it’s easy to get lazy, but if you want to work towards living alone, you have to learn to change that attitude.
You should get used to the habit of washing your own dishes (pro tip: don’t wait until your sink is piled with plates and cups).
Learn how to cook
People tend to rely on ordering takeouts during the early stages of moving out. Once this becomes a habit, however, you’ll find that both your wallet and your savings will be sporadically emptying out over time. Grocery is cheaper on the long run, and cooking doesn’t have to be a chore, boring and exhausting.
You should be able to cook an evening meal from scratch. Making a good sandwich counts as a good meal… cup of noodles – not so much.
Grocery shopping might seem easy, but it’s easy to forget yourself amidst the aisles of chocolate and shampoos.
You should always go to the supermarket with a shopping list and a certain budget that you don’t want to surpass. You have to learn to drop the bulk of Doritos you have carried in your arms, and instead learn how to differentiate between the greeneries in the vegetables section.
Grocery shopping also includes knowing which laundry product is right for you, which polishing products you want, and whether you really need to buy that special brand of cereal or not. This comes with practice.
While it’s okay to spoil yourself every now and then (if you earned it then you DO deserve it)… just try not to make a habit out of it.
Running errands on your own
As in taking trips to do governmental papers, going to your university’s department and sorting out educational papers, and taking your car to the repair shop.
It’s easy (especially as a girl/woman) to depend on someone else to run these errands for you. In order to become more responsible, however, you have to learn how to get out of your comfort zone and go run these errands on your own.
Becoming your own handyman repairman
Have you ever tried changing your own light bulb? It’s not as hard as it might seem. You just need to go and buy a light bulb (you should know where to buy light bulbs from if you want to prove that you’re able to live alone), get a stool, unscrew the old light bulb, throw it away, and replace it with the new light bulb you just purchased.
It’s all about trial and error when it comes to learn these house chores. You can’t learn it by reading a book – you have to get practical and try to use a screwdriver if you want to tighten the nails on your bedroom’s doorknob.
Phoning your family to let them know you haven’t forgotten them
While this one might not seem like a biggy to you, your parents will definitely notice it. Phoning them will make them realize that you’re not only moving out to escape from their clutches. On the contrary, it’ll give them the sense of security that you still want to communicate with them and let them know what’s going on in your life.
Talk to your parents both about silly matters and serious matters
Following the previous point, when you talk to your parents, don’t make them feel like they’re only caught up with your daily gossip. While you should update them and let them know what’s going on in your life, you should also talk to them about your dreams, ambitions, and plans for your life. Parents can brush off much of what you say as child talk, so you have to make them realize that you’re serious.
Don’t be all talk, no action
As in don’t talk about job hunting, and not get a job. Don’t talk about startups, and not do anything to direct you towards making your dreams come true.
Clean after your pets
You should be able to clean after your pet, take it for walks, wash it, brush it, and take it to trips to the vet.
Having a pet requires its own budget from your savings too. So make sure you put into consideration the dry food or litter you’ll be buying for it.
If you follow these points and they still don’t work, then don’t worry. You’re not doing anything wrong. You’ll at least learn how to become more of an independent person, and will be one step closer to freedom.